And we feel guilty or bad for constantly changing our minds. We desire to make the right decision, and it can almost be paralyzing and keep us from making any decisions at all because we just want to get it right. I don’t know about you, but I have a feeling, I have a hunch that you are as big of a perfectionist as I am where we just want to get it right. We reserve the right to change our minds as often as we want to. One of my favorite expressions is that we reserve the right to change our minds. I’m going in the direction of it is okay to change your mind frequently. And then I changed my mind again, and I keep changing my mind. I wanted to get married, and I wanted a home, and I wanted to be a homemaker.Īnd I wanted to be Martha Stewart and bake brownies and have a beautiful home with organized drawers and closets where you open, and there are labeled baskets. And then I was like, nope, that’s not at all what I wanted. I remember when I was younger, I wanted a penthouse apartment in New York City and to be an executive and never get married, never have kids and work, work, work, work, work, just like my dad. One minute I think, okay, this is what I want. And I think the reason why I am not fully self-realized is that I change my mind. I’m still trying to figure out who I am, what I want, and what I want to change about myself. I mean, I’ve definitely put in the time, but I would say if I were, to be honest, I’m not entirely there yet. Like if anyone should be self-realized, it should be me. He posed the question: how aware are you of who you really are? And I thought, my goodness, I have read every self-help book on the shelf since like 1982, I have gone to gazillions of hours of therapy, and I studied psychology in college. I was listening to a podcast the other day, and it was a guy talking about self-realization. I’m changing my mind about the entire bathroom over and over and over again. And I’m not talking about like, oh, I’m changing my mind about the tile. But I’ve spent hundreds of hours looking at bathrooms and changed my mind a gazillion times. I will own that, but I’m also very proud of that. I’m slightly obsessive-compulsive about research. We first moved in here about a year ago and still haven’t started remodeling yet.Īnd this is why, because I keep changing my mind. And so I have all this inspiration from Pinterest and decorating books, and I’m selecting things for redoing our bathrooms. I don’t know if I am, but I really enjoy it.
If I could do life over again, I probably would do something in interior design. We knew that when we moved into the house because we had it inspected. So anyway, why am I saying this? What does the plumbing have to do with anything? We can’t even get plumbers to come out and fix our plumbing because it’s such a terrible job. We pray before we turn on the water in the shower because we’re not sure if it will be clear or brown because the pipes are original. Today I live in an old home it was built in 1919, and it is falling apart. And then I’m going to talk about it, how it applied to me when I was in love with someone struggling with addiction. I’m going to give you an example of how I’m struggling with this in my everyday life today. My life is not easy breezy, and I still struggle with some really key codependent traits. And although I was married to a really good guy, who still struggles with addiction, I, by absolutely no means, am perfect. Today I’m going to talk about a topic that I personally struggle with very, very much. Read the transcript and find more details here: